3 Ways Hekate Can Help You Step Into Your Authentic Self

Are you feeling stuck and unsure of who you really are? Maybe you sense a new version of yourself wanting to emerge, but something inside you is holding you back.

Hekate, the Guardian of the Crossroads and the Torchbearer Goddess, can help illuminate the parts of yourself that keep you trapped in old patterns, so you can finally step more fully into your authentic self.

I’ve been on the witchcraft path for over 35 years, and since 2018, I’ve been working closely with Hekate on shadow work and identity shifting — the process of unraveling the layers of I’m not good enough, I’m not lovable, and all those self-limiting identities we carry. Through this work, I’ve discovered just how powerfully Hekate can guide us through transformation.

In this article, I’ll share three ways Hekate can help you release the old and awaken the true soul version of yourself.

1. Hekate Shines Her Torch to Reveal What’s Holding You Back

When we’re lost in self-doubt or feeling like life just isn’t working, it can feel as though we’re walking through a dark tunnel. Hekate’s torches light the path ahead — revealing the hidden beliefs and assumptions that keep us from moving forward.

Before meditation, I often call upon Hekate to show me what I need to see. In one of these meditations, I uncovered a deeply rooted belief I didn’t even realize I carried.

Growing up in the early ’70s in a small household with my mother and sister, I absorbed the idea that women were only meant to be homemakers — that we couldn’t achieve much outside the family. Added to that, my mother was a single parent, and society at the time saw her as “the poor one.” Somewhere in my subconscious, I decided that because I was her daughter, I couldn’t succeed beyond that limited role.

That hidden belief quietly blocked me for decades. Every time I tried to step into something greater, my nervous system would send up warning flares: It’s not safe to do this.

Through Hekate’s light, I finally saw that belief for what it was — an illusion. From there, I could begin to change it.

I often use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) — also known as tapping — to release old patterns. You can find guided tapping videos on my other YouTube channel, Sandra Inman Tapping, which might help you uncover and shift similar beliefs.

Remember: when you’re at a crossroads, Hekate asks you to choose — to stay in the familiar dark or walk toward the light of your true self.

If you’re doing this work with tarot, look out for cards like The Moon (illusions and the unconscious), The Tower (transformation through upheaval), or The Eight of Swords (self-imposed limitation). These are signs that Hekate is guiding you through your inner shadow.

2. Hekate Guides You Through Transformation

Once Hekate reveals what’s blocking you, she doesn’t leave you stranded at the crossroads. She helps you move through the resistance.

One of my favorite ways to work with her is through meditation or inner temple work. In your imagination, create a sacred temple — a place where you can meet Hekate and your higher self.

I often visualize this temple and invite Hekate into it. There, I connect with the empowered version of myself — the version who already feels confident, creative, and aligned. When I step into that version, I can feel both the empowerment and the resistance. That resistance is valuable because it reveals exactly what’s been holding me back.

You can try this too:

• Light a candle as a symbol of Hekate’s torches.

• Close your eyes and imagine entering your temple.

• See the version of you who already lives your authentic truth.

• Step into that version of yourself and notice what comes up — both the excitement and the discomfort.

That discomfort is the old programming leaving the body. It’s the fear of being seen, the belief that you “shouldn’t,” or the doubt that you’re “not ready.”

In tarot, The Devil and Death cards often appear in this stage. The Devil reminds us of the chains we’ve placed on ourselves, and Death signals the rebirth of your authentic self.

3. Hekate Helps You Embody Your Authentic Self

Once the old patterns begin to dissolve, Hekate helps you integrate the new energy and step into your soul-aligned identity.

During one phase of my journey, I noticed I was struggling with inconsistency in my business, Mystery Witch School. Part of me loved creating and teaching, but another part resisted it. I discovered through meditation with Hekate that I had an old belief: To succeed, I must do things I don’t enjoy.

That belief made it impossible to fully enjoy my creative work because I subconsciously believed joy and success couldn’t coexist. Once Hekate revealed that truth, everything started to shift.

At that time, The Star and The Magician appeared in my tarot readings — symbols of hope, creativity, and conscious manifestation. They reminded me that magic happens when we align with our purpose and act from authenticity.

You can work with Hekate in this same way. Ask her to reveal what’s keeping you conflicted. Meditate, journal, or simply talk it out and record yourself. The truth often hides in the spaces between your words.

To change these beliefs, I recommend EFT tapping and gentle reframing. For example, instead of saying, I’m not good enough, try, What if I am good enough, and it’s safe for me to be seen?
This kind of suggestion helps your subconscious open to new possibilities without resistance.

Walking the Path with Hekate

These are just three of the many ways you can work with Hekate to transform your life. If you’d like to go deeper, my course A Journey with Hekate is designed to guide you step by step through this process.

You’ll learn how to work with Hekate in your inner temple, perform empowering magic, and shift from the old, limited self to your true, confident self. For the next three weeks, I’m offering A Journey with Hekate bundled with The Confident Tarot Reader course — both for the same price as one.

Together, they form a powerful combination for self-discovery, magical growth, and intuitive tarot practice.

You can find the link to A Journey with Hekate here on my website or in the video description if you’re watching this on YouTube.

May Hekate’s torches light your path as you step into your true soul self.

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